Tips for writing ads for online dating Sites. Men.

We will start our series on ads for online

1. When adding your pictures to a site.

-Do not use pictures of yourself with another woman. Even if it is just your sister. And even if you cut out most of the other person. You want women to think of you as available. You don't want them to get the idea that you are still with your ex or are a player. That is what women think when they see another woman in your picture. They want someone that can be into just them. I think many men think that if you see them with other women you will think that they are popular but most women think that means you will just be like many of the others that don't want to be in a monogamous relationship.

-Do not post pictures of you with no clothes on. I am not just talking about naked pictures here, of course that is a no no, I am talking about pictures of you with no shirt on or posing to show your muscles. Women want to see a nice guy that they don't have to feel like they have to measure up. A regular girl who is out for a real connection does not need to know your height and weight and see a picture of you.

The whole idea is to look like a nice guy. If you can the best pictures are a professional picture and it needs to be be within the last 6 months.

2. When writing your ads.

DO NOT TALK ABOUT SEX! Yes your last love or wife did not like or want sex so you feel the need to mention on your ad that you want a woman who likes sex. I cannot stress how much of a turn off this is. It makes you seem like you a)are sleeping with many women which in turn makes her think you could have an STD and are looking for a fling or b) they have to measure up to your standards. Most women like sex. If there was a problem with sex in your last relationship, it probably had alot to do with the fact that you weren't getting along and not because she didn't like sex. There is a reason you are not together anymore. I mean this-MOST SINGLE WOMEN WANT AND LIKE SEX. This is true and your ex that had problems with that probably liked it too. If you do run into a woman that does not like it you will find out soon enough. But it is a huge turn off and women get the wrong idea if you bring that up before you have even met them. And remember guys. If you had issues with someone in the past with sex, it takes a few times to get in a rhythm. The first time many women and men are so nervous it takes more than once to see if you click. Do not assume that the first time is an indicator of what most women are like. And you can't go by what your ex was like. The sex thing will work itself out. You have to give it time and I can't stress this enough. DON"T ASSUME ANYTHING. Don't assume, if you do you will continue to go from person to person looking for unreasonable standards.

Do try and be honest, sincere and be yourself. Women pick up on that. Most men and women just want to be with someone real. Same with men. You want to stand out. Believe me there are so many men out there that say these things you just want to stand out and if you are honest and sincere you will stand out!!

Calling Men you are Dating.

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How and when to (and when not to) call and email to make him want you more, how to get him to ask for your number, why men don't call, what to do if he has been ignoring you and how to tell if he he really likes you.

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Game playing in Dating

After my divorce I tried many things in my dating life. I tried listening to the "rules" about when to call a man, when to date, what to say. I have talked to people that needed advice on why a guy that they really liked is upset after they said they were going out with someone else. My advice is it is never a good idea to play games. If you are not playing by how you truly feel it will never work out because sooner or later you will have to tell them what you truly think. If you are with a man or woman that needs you to act a certain way before they will want you then you are not in the right type of relationship. Here is a fantastic book on how to stay with someone that you truly love. Great information in this book. Make up don't break up.

Millionaire Matchmaker Book

This is one of my favorite programs. She is very smart. But always remember, these rules are never set in stone. We will get into this later.